This book is both a rebellion and a love letter. A rebellion against outdated ideas of control, and a tribute to the dog who looks at you and asks, “Can we do this together?” Drawing on personal stories, behaviour analysis, and emerging science, Tess shows how cooperation, choice, and trust can transform everything–not just how we train dogs, but how we live with them.

You’ll learn clear, compassionate strategies for everyday challenges like vet visits, barking at other dogs, or being home alone. But this is more than just training. It’s a new way of being together–one that enriches life for both you and your dog. When dogs are given a voice, they become more confident, more resilient, and more at ease in our human world. And we, in turn, become better listeners, better friends, and better humans.

For anyone who wants to understand their dog more deeply, build a two-way friendship, and become the human their dog truly deserves.